Emotional Stability Questionnaire 1


Meet Marcella, a 28-year old individual capable of feeling and expressing really intense emotions. On the one hand, she could be the life of the party. Leading activities, interacting with everyone and participating in fun, adventurous antics. She could have a conversation with anyone and often enjoyed interacting with all different types of people. On the other hand, if folks want to do something she’s not in the mood for, she would become angry and even ditch them altogether. Although she is capable of making a great first impression, any relationships she has (friends, family, colleagues, romance) tend to be volatile and end in falling outs. Outbursts, emotional and physical, are predictably unpredictable. As a result, Marcella has a difficult time really holding on to long-term relationships. She would even say she could feel so alone in a crowded room.

Sometimes, Marcella would go through these periods of almost disappearing from society, being slow to answer texts and emails or staying home for days without an explanation. Even when she wasn’t around her friends, her emotions would get the best of her. When she felt extremely lonely, she’d begin searching the internet for her next romantic partner.

Marcella was once over the moon in love with an individual named Chris. It was like love at first sight and she couldn’t stop talking about him. However, she broke up with him at one point when he didn’t immediately respond to a gift she had sent him for his birthday. Chris then became the most evil, malicious, untrustworthy person in her eyes. Though Marcella initiated the breakup, it was still extremely difficult for her. She felt alone, rejected, lost, conflicted, and confused about her feelings.

These issues weren’t limited to her romantic relationships. When things really got stressful, she’d go into this mode of feeling really detached… almost separated from her body and the world around her. Her behaviors would also be erratic and risky as she got “bored” with life. She once was arrested for shoplifting and another time for reckless driving.

Marcella had also been to a number of therapists beginning when she was young. She had been diagnosed with a number of different disorders and placed on medication. The meds helped with some things but seemed to make other things worse. As a result, her doctors often changed up her medications throughout the years in an attempt to respond to her stressors and help her stabilize her emotions.

After Marcella had broken up with Chris, she began cutting her arms. At one point, a colleague had noticed the scabs. This was quite embarrassing for Marcella who then began exploring other forms of treatment – finally finding somebody who truly understood her and could actually help her

  • Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.

    Marcella perceived that her boyfriend was abandoning her becaus he didn’t respond to her gift quickly enough, which drove her to break up with him, causing her to feel even more abandoned.  She had a history of inappropriate behavior related to feeling abandoned.

  • A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.

    When Marcella met Chris, she was “over the moon” in love and wanted to talk with him every day, but she broke up with him, referring to him as “evil” when he didn’t respond quickly enough to her texts about a gift she’d left for him.  She’d had similar experiences with previous boyfriends.

  • Identity disturbances: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.

    Marcella had difficulty making and keeping friends, as she tended to change the types of people she liked to spend time with, and her views and values changed to match them.

  • Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (for example, spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating).

    When she wasn’t in a relationship, Marcella comulsively searched the Internet for her next encounter.  She drove recklessly and had two DWI’s, and she shoplifted if things got “too boring”.

  • Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures or threats, or self-mutilating behavior.

    Marcella had a history of self-mutilation, cutting her arms or legs when she was under stress or feeling lonely.  She cut her arms after her breakup with Chris.

  • Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (for example, intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).

    When she wasn’t around her friends, Marcella often curled up on her bed and cried, or grasped for ways to calm herself and feel connected, such as going on texting sprees or scouring datings sites for her next hookup.

  • Chronic feelings of emptiness.

    Marcella often felt alone, even if she was with a significant other. She’d also say, “I’m usually alone in a crowded room.”

  • Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (for example, frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).

    Marcella had multiple intense arguments and physical altercations with friends, oyfriends, family members, and coworkers.

  • Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms. (Paranoid ideation is being afraid that others are plotting against you and dissociation is mentally separating from physical or emotional experiences, or both).

    When under a high degree of stress, marcella often felt detached from her body and the world around her.

If you resonated with at least 5 of the items on the list, some form of therapy that is geared towards helping you understand who you are at your core and where your “superpowers” (as we call them) are sourced would go a long way in helping you manage those intense, seemingly uncontrollable emotions and outbursts. There are a lot of great individuals out there who could help you, but if you’re interested in the Spiritual and Metaphysical forms of approach, then like, share, and comment.  You can also become a member and work with us to overcome this and live to your full potential.

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